Many years ago I listened to a teaching on “the irregular person“. The message became a book and has been read all over the world. “Joyce Landorf” is the author of this 1982 book. I have found what she said to be very true and helpful. In short, we all have at least one irregular person in our life. Maybe we are an irregular person in someone else’s life. An irregular person is a person who responds, says, acts, behaves usually in just the opposite way that is needed by another person. They may be our spouse, friend, relative. When we need encouragement they fail to give it and may even drag us further down. If we need compliments they don’t offer any. If we need congratulations they offer none. I can’t find much online about the irregular person which surprises me. All I can find is sources for the book. I did find this one YouTube video of a black church where the sermon was about the subject.

The book explains why some people are difficult to get along with or insensitive to the needs of others and tells how to learn to deal with them using Christian forgiveness. It helps us to understand some of the most difficult people in our lives and why they can’t be who and what we want them to be. Understanding what the author of this book is saying helps us to keep in check unrealistic expectations of irregular people. Perhaps this will help you understand and accept this situation in your life. It helped me.